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Read ô PDF, eBook or Kindle ePUB free Ç Kristen Ulmer A revolutionary guide to acknowledging fear and developing the tools we need to build a healthy relationship with this confusing emotion and use it as a positive force in our lives We all feel fear Yet we are often taught to ignore it overcome it push past it But to what benefit  This is the essential uestion that guides Kristen Ulmer’s remarkable exploration of our most misunderstood emotion in The Art of Fear Once recognized as the best extreme skier in the world an honor she held for twelve years Ulmer knows fear well. Notes Fear is part of you so going to war with it is going to war with yourself Warring with your emotions is like putting a kink in a hose it stops the flow of all emotions including the pleasant ones Repressed fear is the root of many problems When we lock fear in the basement body it gets aggressive about getting its message across to us Fear is the CEO Thinking Mind is the COO Of course there is reason to be afraid the human experience is sometimes vulnerable and terrifying “Let it be” is helpful than “Let it go” Thoughts and feelings will come and go as they please so we can’t really let them go but we can let go of resistance to them let go of clinging let go of control Practice exercise Breathe in fear and breathe out the hope of ever getting rid of it Body awareness Noticing nothing Not fixing understanding analyzing uestioning or changing; just noticing This is physical intelligence It takes two wings to fly We need light and dark emotions Work on becoming a “Human Being” Human you are separate and don’t feel okay Thinking Mind labels and divides thoughts and feelings into goodbad acceptableunacceptable okaynot okay Being you are connected and feel okay Beyond thoughts and feelings and the judgments of the Thinking Mind Human Being you are connected and beyond while also being separate and finite; this is okay and not okay Fully experience the okay and the not okay Don’t elevate the spiritual sense of connectedness over the human experience of separateness You will always come back down to earth and this not okayness is okayuotesBecoming a warrior is about turning away from your old belief that Fear is a hindrance and instead walk in the opposite direction toward recognizing that Fear is not only an asset and an ally but one of the greatest experiences you’ll have in your lifetimeFear was but a simple emotion a discomfort in her body warning of danger and that it only had her best interests in mind Fear was never the problem then; her reaction to Fear was the problem making it difficult for Fear to get its message across or do its job She saw how fighting it not only was a dead end but was actually causing all her horrific symptomsYou are a corporation made up of 10000 individual employees Imagine that in this corporation called Your Name none of the 10000 employees know their job title their job description who’s boss or even what they’re manufacturing How well would that corporation run Fear is a big deal because it’s usually the ringleader of the mutiny factionIf left unchallenged and it usually is the Thinking Mind ultimately is who you believe yourself to beWhile with effort you may catch glimpses of something beyond your personal EgoThinking Mind maybe even uite often it doesn’t matter You will always come back to it again and again Your Ego is your human fate No one is without an Ego And in that separation lies the source of FearThere’s nothing you can do about it really Everything you love—whether it’s people passions objects states of being or your sanity—will be taken away from you at some point and not on your terms And that’s just downright terrifying Separateness—not the Fear—is the “problem” The Fear is just the ultimate resultEventually the fear of staying separate forever overshadows the fear of rejection and you pursue relationships despite the fact that you may be rejected which at some point you will beThere is no such thing as a good or bad emotion; there is only emotion But if an emotion feels uncomfortable in a way you don’t like you call it a bad emotionYou can control emotions about as much as you can control breathing a little bit but not for long You couldn’t commit suicide by holding your breath—you’d just pass out and breathing would resume The same applies to Fear The moment you drop your guard Fear will come back It’s as innate as breathing It cannot will not be denied for longWanting to be better different and other than yourself offers on the one hand great motivation to improve yourself But there’s a dark side to this drive When we want Fear to go away or be different this suggests it’s a problem that must be fixed And since Fear is a part of you that means you must be fixed If you need to be fixed that means you’re broken So your attention becomes focused on how broken you are and what’s wrong with you which leads to toil struggle and shoddy self esteem If you don’t like Fear you don’t like yourselfFear has now become the other that you need to fight or take flight from Instead of the snake the situation being the problem Fear is now the problem The discomfort is the problemIf there’s a problem in your life any problem at all I guarantee that your putting Fear in the basement has something to do with itYou may not even be aware of Fear any; instead you’re just crazy jealous gossip a lot are shallow or overeat That’s still Fear expressing itself but in its twisted covert way Which is the only way it speaks if it’s in the basementAny seemingly unpleasant “bad” voice you won’t look at becomes your shadow the darkness that follows you everywhere messing up your life And while you may have stopped noticing it make no mistake Everyone else can still see itIf something is going wrong in your life the only uestion to ask is What dark shadow about yourself are you unwilling to look at and own And important what latent Fear are you refusing to acknowledgeEach voice in your corporation has great wisdom and great delusion—every single one As you’re learning if a voice is repressed only its delusion comes out But when any voice is taken out of the basement and owned and honored only its wisdom comes outRecognize that you’re powerless over Fear and Anger Could you do that You’d have to stop trying to control and instead feel and experience these emotions when they show upThe energy of the cut off emotion has to go somewhere and it sure as heck doesn’t go into the atmosphere Emotion is felt in the body so when halted it temporarily gets stored in the bodyThere’s no such thing as overwhelming Fear Fear is just Fear it’s not overwhelming But if you’ve been in a battle with Fear that you can’t win the battle is what becomes overwhelmingStress and Anxiety are not the actual problem—trying to control or “solve” the Stress and Anxiety is the real problem and the underlying cause behind the excessive symptomsIf given the choice would you rather feel happy or aliveYou can’t selectively repress an emotion without inadvertently repressing all emotionsWhen Fear shows up or any voice not in line with what the Controller or the Will wants it kinks the hose And Flow immediately stopsEmotions are meant

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Download ↠ The Art of Fear ç PDF, eBook or Kindle ePUB free ↠ A revolutionary guide to acknowledging fear and developing the tools we need to build a healthy relationship with this confusing emotion — and use it as a positive force in our lives We all feel fear Yet we are often taught to ignore it overcome Er teaches readers how to experience fear in a simpler authentic way transforming our relationship with this emotion from that of a draining battle into one that’s in line with our true nature Influenced by Ulmer’s own complicated relationship with fear and her over 15 years as a mindset facilitator The Art of Fear will reconstruct the way we react to and experience fear empowering us to easily and permanently address the underlying cause of our fear based problems and setting us on course to live a happier expansive futu. I’ve grown up believing that one is either motivated by love or fear Of course we experience both in our lives but I know I’m not a fear based person I believe I’m influenced by love and try to focus on the positive It’s a daily exercise to keep one’s mind in that frame and not let the negativity around us influence our mind and behavior Of course a good cocktail of anti depressants can fix that right awayA new book by Kristen Ulmer THE ART of FEAR HarperWave argues fear is misunderstood That we often ignore it push past it or somehow overcome it in order to not deal with it Ulmer believes that by acknowledging and embracing our fear we can use it to our benefit and turn it into a positive force in our livesKristin Ulmer knows fear really well She was recognized as the best extreme skier in the world for twelve years at which time she knew she could get incredibly injured or die every time she put on her skis In her chit chatty book she argues that fear isn’t intended to cause us problems that in fact the only true issue we face with fear is our misguided reaction to itUlmer starts her book by explaining why we’ve come to view fear as something negative She gives us the tools to turn our thinking around making fear just one of the any other voices in our head The tools she teaches explain how we can learn to live with fear in the same way we live with joy love and gratitude It’s all about a mindfulness tool she calls an attitude “shift”  This way Ulmer says we can experience fear in a simpler authentic way transforming our relationship with this emotion and living with our true nature instead of letting it drain usReading through her book one learns it’s taken Kristen fifteen years as a mindset facilitator to come to this point So if you’re thinking about trying this out don’t expect results overnight But I think anything that leads to a happier healthier expansive life is certainly worth giving a shot

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The Art of FearIn this conversation changing book she argues that fear is not here to cause us problems and that in fact the only true issue we face with fear is our misguided reaction to it not the fear itself Rebuilding our experience with fear from the ground up Ulmer starts by exploring why we’ve come to view it as a negative From here she unpacks fear and shows it to be just one of 10000 voices that make up our reality here to help us come alive alongside joy love and gratitude Introducing a mindfulness tool called “Shift” Ulm. This is a really interesting book about learning to embrace fear rather than trying to get rid of it or act like it isn't there I was unfamiliar with the author's sports career being generally ignorant of all things sports and the anecdotes are great She points out that fear is necessary in our lives we could die without it so treating it like a red headed stepchild actually makes things worse Many times we're not even afraid of the situation we're afraid of fear the emotion that comes out in the situation Fear gives us energy and driveWhere the author gets into trouble is when she steps out from discussing fears and the ways in which we can embrace it as well as all our other many and necessary emotions and talks about topics like medication therapy and meditation since she clearly doesn't have much of a background here She parrots the common line that antidepressants numb all emotions but that is simply not true for everyone for many people in the depths of clinical depression antidepressants bring them back to life She also doesn't seem to understand the ways in which some types of therapy such as cognitive behavior therapy actually support her idea of embracing fear and similarly that meditation helps people notice their emotions which is necessary to take the next step of actually welcoming the fear and other emotionsIn other words the discussion about emotions and the important part they play in our lives is well worth reading but it's probably best to skip her opinions about other ways to work through some of these issues