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I Don't Have to Make Everything All Better summary ✓ eBook, ePUB or Kindle PDF » In their weekly radio show and in their popular workshops Gary and Joy Lundberg have already helped thousands of people and their families to communicate effectively Now the Lundbergs address an all too common dilemma tIn their weekly radio show and in their popular workshops Gary and Joy Lundberg have already helped thousands of people and their families to communicate effectively Now the Lundbergs address an all too common dilemma that arises wh. This book is a life changer I read it in bits and pieces and have tried to digest it and make it a part of who I am and how I respond to people It has already changed the way I treat my children I have a really long way to goSomething is better than nothing I guess

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En others expect you to solve their problems for them showing readers how they can shed the no win role of fixer and empower people to solve their own problems through validation a simple yet profound communication tool that is esse. I don’t have to make everything all better All I have to do is listenListening is hard to do We want to jump in with the solution to the other person’s problem It is amazing how we “know” what the other person “should” do but if we end up with the same problem they had we become as confused or witless as they were Don’t prescribe just listenListening is so hard to do that here is a whole book on the topicListening is so hard that this book gives six principles “that empower others to solve their own problems”“Validation is not a cure all It is a way to get some relief from carrying burdens that are not yours It is a way to let people close to you carry their own responsibilities while helping them feel loved by you to a far greater degree Introduction“every person you see has the universal need to believe inside themselves that I AM OF WORHT MY FEELINGS MATTER AND SOMEONE REALLY CARES ABOUT ME It would be well to memorize this statement so you can recall it whenever anyone begins to share personal feelings with you” Chapter 1ContentsPart 1 The Principles1 Be an effective validator2 Leave the responsibility where it belongs3 Acknowledge emotions4 Develop the art of listening5 Find the right time to teach6 Learn the effective validating phrases and uestionPart 2 The ApplicationChapters illustrating validation in various setting followConclusion 1 What is validation “The ability to walk emotionally with another person ”2 What are the four rules of validation LISTEN by giving your full attention LISTEN to the feelings being expressed LISTEN to the needs being expressed UNDERSTAND by putting yourself in the other person’s shoes as best you can3 What is the universal need of every human being4 What is the underlying principle that allows a person to effectively validate someone else5 Where does the responsibility for someone’s problem lie6 What are the four key elements of effective boundary setting7 When is the right time to teach8 Give two good validating phrases and uestions Page 266 267 of 272It is written with lots of anecdotes At first that was a bit disappointing and I gradually realized that is what most people relate to After realizing that I began to uite enjoy the book I even enjoyed the chapters in part 2 talking about settings that don’t apply to meI have the 1995 edition which has the same ISBN as the 1999 edition but is 272 pages long instead of 304 pages

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I Don't Have to Make Everything All BetterNtial to any healthy relationship Refreshingly straightforward this inspiring and entertaining work is poised to become a classic guide for anyone who wishes to improve relationships with their partner children colleagues and friend. This is a fantastic book I can't recommend it enough for fixers like me who really do just want to make it all better Practical advice that works to help heal relationships and to keep hurt feelings and misunderstandings at bay I have begun to incorporate the principles espoused in this book and I can tell you they work beautifully I believe reading this has saved my relationships with my daughters I can't put it strongly than that Most times people want validation of their feelings not advice or criticism I know for me when I go to someone for sympathy and to vent and instead get I told you so or their own stories it makes me resentful of not being heard This book made me realize how often I do that as well and it's past time for a change